The issue of child violence is quite a popular topic of discussion among the general public today. Bookstores offer a wide variety of books full of recommendations for parents on how to protect a child from emotional and physical abuse or how to intervene it. Nevertheless the situation at school remains the same and doesn’t tend to improve. All the observations and facts concerning this issue are rather contradictory and lack any systematic approach. Different recommendations given by experienced school psychologists turn out to be impractical as well.
Also there is no unanimous opinion on who can fall victim to school violence. Some think that absolutely any child can become a victim, especially when he or she has some physical deficiencies (e.g. has to wear glasses, a hearing device), their behavior is different (an extremely introverted child), or there are some differences in their appearance (e.g. outstanding ears). However this approach disregards the fact that not all children wearing glasses become a target of violence, and some of them even inflict violence on peers. So these factors cannot be considered as determinant ones.
On the other hand, the victim is quite often told that “glasses are not the reason” for such treatment and sometimes even recommended to follow the social group demands and change something about himself!!!... Sometimes it is suggested that a student should notify the school authorities, police or change schools and so on. Unfortunately all these measures usually have no effect – children never miss an opportunity to bully a scapegoat (when there is one). Children are not angels, they are little animals and their behavior is archetypical. The weaker children, those who haven’t learned to provide their own safety, come under pressure from those who are stronger. Quite often children with the visual vector who are kind and defenseless by nature become the target as they are unable to stand up for themselves.
NO RIGHT TO FOOD
A dermal visual boy is usually the most vulnerable person in a group. How does this absolutely extroverted and good-looking boy become the “odd man out”?
The reason is that the priority task for everyone before reaching puberty is to find their innate role in the pack and the class becomes a prototype (a small modern version) of a pack.
When people say that a person must be self-sufficient, it is just fine words. A person can realize oneself only in a group, it concerns even those who are ultimately introverted and do not like socializing.
All male members of a group have their archetype, their role, which determines their position in the pack. A dermal visual male is the only one who had no archetype, no role or function. A male who is unable to kill is unable to get anything to eat. He learned to adopt the landscape and to survive not so long ago.
Although some people think that his being emotional, sensitive, and resembling a girl can be the reasons for physical and oral abuse, the real reasons are different. The children bully not the physically weak ones, but those who can not rank themselves within a group. A dermal visual male is the only one who has no function in the pack, so he can’t take part in ranking; consequently he has no right to food. As a result he experiences difficulties in social adaptation.
The proper upbringing can help a dermal visual boy to achieve successful social adaptation. E.g., learning to play the guitar and sing will give him cultural or acquired right to food. He will avoid becoming a victim of violence and will gain respect from his classmates.
PARENTS AND CHILDREN
Children with any vectors can become victims of violence. Exceptions are the olfactory, urethral and oral types. If your child has any of these vectors you don’t need to worry about his or her social adaptation.
Children don’t usually develop socialization problems because of a bad school, teacher or class. As a rule it is a result of wrong parental upbringing.
Every child is born with their own innate abilities. Proper development and realization of these abilities will provide children with good psychic health and right place in the group. On the other hand, too much parental pressure and no opportunity to develop their potential can result in a serious stressed state (it also may happen when children are given wrong direction in their development, for example, a child with good acting abilities is forced to attend a boxing club instead of a drama school and vice versa). Such children become vulnerable and easy to subdue (to control). Too much patronizing also has a negative effect on children. Parents should avoid taking too much care of their child and allow him to develop his social adaptation skills on his own. Paradoxically enough, by protecting him from troubles parents will make his life more difficult in the future. Overprotection can do a lot of harm, even to a most extraverted child making him unable to adapt to his social group.
A child will face a lot of problems if his parents have unrealized and undeveloped vectors. For example, in the case of having a frustrated anal father with sadistic inclinations, a stressed and unrealized dermal mother with inadequate prohibitions and limitations, an unrealized overprotective anal mother and a mother with the underdeveloped visual vector in the state of “fear” who tends to see a maniac with an axe ready to attack her children everywhere.
EXCEEDING ONE’S AUTHORITY
Certainly school violence is not always caused by students only. Probably any small town has at least one story about a teacher sadist or a teacher pedophile.
It is always an anal type man whose role is to gather and pass on information and experience to teenage boys. He has a high sexual potential and undifferentiated libido; this is where his desire to teach boys originates from. Initially an anal man is attracted to teenage boys. But this attraction is inhibited, first of all it is taboo in the natural world, then such relations are prohibited by human laws.
Developed and realized anal men are great teachers, genuinely committed to students and their learning. But if he is undeveloped and sexually or socially frustrated, an anal man can become a serious danger to society and should never be allowed near schools or children.
Unfortunately the problem of pedophilia is getting more and more serious. In the modern world, anal values as well as anal professionals are not wanted as much as they used to be in the past. Dermal values and speedy way of life are contrary to anal men’s attitude to life. Healthy and developed western dermal civilization provides anal professionals with opportunities to develop and realize their vector. But in the former Soviet countries, which are controlled by the archetypical dermal vector, anal people have far less opportunities for realization.
In conclusion, dear parents, I would like to address you! Always remember that social well-being of your children is absolutely in your hands. Whether they will become victims of violence or proper social development depends firstly on you. On the training given for Vector Systems psychology you will learn how to clearly differentiate the vectors of your child and bring them up in a way that agrees with their innate features. You will be able to see an anal man immediately, to see in what condition or how developed he is, and will be able to protect your child when necessary.
The article is based on the training given for Vector Systems psychology presented by Yuri Burlan.
By Anna Kuzmuk, an interpreter and teacher.
Translated by: Guzel Ishbuldina
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