Bad influence of whiners. Is it so bad, as they paint us?

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Bad influence of whiners. Is it so bad, as they paint us?

In order not to be influenced by people with shortages, it is important to clearly understand that there are apples and tomatoes: every person feels reality through the prism of their vectors and states. If they are not realized, then the world seems bad to him/her. But it is necessary to fulfill the desire, and life will "suddenly" become different bringing joy and the desire to live.

There are people who are dissatisfied with everything all the time. Even when everything is fine, they will find a reason to complain about life:

I did not get enough sleep, I want to sleep …

Too lazy to work!

Where can I get money?

I want to go to the sea, lie in the sun and swim.

The weather is bad - it is the heat, then the cold …

And thousands of thousands of other claims. On the one hand, they seem not to be touched by their displeased minds. On the other hand, it is possible to track the bad influence of whiners on their own worldview.

As if from nowhere thoughts come to our mind that it is undeservedly hard to live, the pleasure is unfairly small ... How not to fall under the influence of those who constantly complain about life? And on whose side is the truth?

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Yuri Burlan’s system vector psychology" training describes human psyche with the help of eight vectors. Modern urban man, as a rule, has a set of several vectors. This is not good or bad, it is just a fact. The difference is between the realized state of vectors and, on the contrary, the unrealized one. When we do not satisfy our vector desires, we experience psychological stress. And we broadcast it outside.

So, an unrealized person with an anal vector tends to be offended. At the same time, his analytical thinking, the ability to systematize, given by nature for quite another, cause, his inclination to generalize his first bad experience, project it at all. Once a cyclist sprinkled mud on his clean suit, and from that time on all bicyclists in his eyes are worthy of blame only. That is, such a person develops absentia for all people united by one sign, indirectly related to his bad experience, and it will cause a splash of negativity. And then it is not known who will get it the women-fools or cyclists, because "He knows it too well! .."

A person with the anal vector appreciates the past more than the present. Therefore, he/she is inclined to sigh heavily and complain that it was better before: the water was wetter, and the tomatoes were more delicious. In a dissatisfied state, he/she is inclined to feel the world as degrading. He/she imagines that everything is "piling up" for his/her complete, shameful collapse. They fail to realize in a constructive vein their vector desire to look for the tear-stained air mattress in the back of the van he/she can be swearing at the state system and people around.

Irritation and anger tis translated by people with unrealized dermal vector. If the day of the dermal  man is filled with tasks he sees right, he will feel that everyone around him is slowing down, getting confused under his feet, and not getting his way. Spending his time, money, nerves and other quickly depleted resources results in a failure.

A person with the dermal vector, who has not realized his potential, will recite attacks of envy, complain about money problems, how little of it they have and how quickly it evaporates. They will also broadcast the desire to get everything "for free" and limit everyone around in consumption, from "put it to tomorrow" to "no and do not!" for any reason.

If a person with a visual vector does not receive sufficient realization of his/her emotional potential, then he/she can fall into a hysterical and even emotional blackmail, suddenly burst into tears or experience a panic attack. He/she will be inclined to dramatize any event, make an elephant out of molehill, complain about how terrible it is to live and, of course, his/her health and / or his appearance. Anyone who gets in his eyes will hear that because of bad sleep there are dark circles under his/her eyes again, they have terrifying nightmares each night and disturbing wandering pains in their body - here and there - and in general, there is a suspicion that something terrible! So the desire to experience emotions and to shake those around them receiving a portion of attention and sympathy is shown.

People with audial vector in unrealized state is able to experience a very severe psychological condition. The lack of an audial vector makes one feel hatred towards life in general and people in particular. A person with the audial vector in this state limits his/her contacts until complete solitude.

Person with audial vector are often disappointed in the humanity, because no no one understands his/her desires and thoughts, so they try to keep their troubles to themselves. however, if we can develop a sincere conversation with them, you can hear bitter philosophical reflection on the fact that people have primitive animal life that is long and empty, there is no sense in anything, and he/she suffers because he/she is forced to get out bed every day and participate in all this farce.

The soul is wide open. Unhappy together

Another psychological feature, because of which people simply throw out their negativity, is of mental nature. Russian people with  urethral mentality are open minded. The peculiarity of the collectivist attitude is that we do not hold a distance at all.

If we have a heavy heart, we will not keep that to ourselves, we will express it in public. And if things are good with us, we can grab  a stranger in the street and start spinning him/her around happily. This makes us unique people: we are so simple, open, and sincere. "If we walk, we are really walking, if we engage in shooting, we will truly shoot."

We also generously share our state of unfulfilledness without a twinge of conscience with those around us. As a result, without malicious intent we commit a crime - we pull people into bad conditions.

But it could be exactly the opposite. Russian people always differed in their willingness to come to the rescue in a difficult moment. Realizing how important it is to bring our good fortunes to society, we would like to share only constructive thoughts and inspiring ideas in order to maintain  benevolent atmosphere. For every person it would become a base that would support him in moments of anguish and despondency related to life's difficulties.

How to distinguish the objective from the subjective? We think systematically

In order not to be influenced by people with shortages, it is important to clearly understand the apples and tomatoes case: every person feels reality through the prism of their vectors and states. If it is not realized, then the world seems bad to him. But it is necessary to fill the desire, and life "suddenly" will become different, bringing joy and the will to live.

Another thing is that it is important not to "bang with the ears," a problem that must be reacted quickly word and deed. And for this it is important to clearly hear and understand what is at issue: the subjective feeling of a person or the present uneasy state of affairs.

As mentioned above, for example, people with unrealized anal vector can scold anything that comes to their eyes. Bad government, bad men and women, bad children, bad work, poor health, bad life ... Although in fact their life is quite ordinary, and there are worse cases. You have to be careful with such person. Take everything at your own expense, if you are criticized, you do not have to tolerate that.

But if, at the moment of sincere conversation, a person with an audial vector complains to you that life is empty and senseless, then it is worth paying attention to this alarming symptom and looking closely to determine whether this person's wits are suicidal thoughts ...

It is also important to remember personal responsibility for choosing the environment. If people through their interests, preferences, look at the world are pulled down into the abyss of despair, one can make their choice in favor of another life

The quality of life depends on one’s psychological state
A happy person is happy in traffic jams, colds, in crowds, and alone. And the unfortunate individual will scold everyone and everything, regardless of the situation.

Yuri Burlan’s "System-Vector Psychology" training reveals the reasons for the behavior of people, disarms all those who, through ignorance or malicious intent, could cause damage, and helps to level negative states, to bring back the joy of life. That's what those who completed this training write:

"This has never happened in the savanna, but my dislike for other people was melting in front of my eyes. No, they did not get any better, I became different ... We had impossible verbal and moral sadist in the team. How to communicate with him, when after doing that you feel so stained, you want to shower. After a while even he turned out to be unarmed ...

When it comes to understanding that these mucks are not related to you personally, there is no response reaction (irritation, resentment, etc.). We stop taking it personally. Moreover, we ourselves cease to unconsciously look for an excuse for pouring our own dislike on another person. "

Vera P., Chelyabinsk

"Yuri Burlan says at the training that people are" attracted "to the equality of properties: if our states change, then our environment also changes. I experienced this first hand. After my internal state has improved, my environment has changed a lot for the better - I joined much more constructive and creative teams than before the training. "

Olga Ch., PhD. in Linguistics, University Philology Professor

"... the SVP helps the understanding of the present ... This knowledge encouraged me to find exactly my kind of work and to search for my circle of communication. This is what makes a person get rid of apathy and happily go out into the street and look with interest at each passerby, catching every chance to get even deeper into him/herself. "

Alena S., Credit Analyst

Disclosure of the unconscious at Yuri Burlan’s System Vector Psychology training is a way to discern the world from eight different points of view, to get its unique results and to never be influenced badly.

Author: Valentina Alabugina, journalist.
Translated by: Anastasia Aksenova.

[Ekaterina33]

What a good article. Just the actual. Very often I meet people who complain about life. I agree that it is important to choose the environment.And it is not always possible to take the man out of his swamp, more to please him. Therefore, it is important training for everyone.

[AnastasiaAU]

I always find it hard to tolerate whiners....DONT THEY HAVE ANYTHING GOOD HAPPENING IN LIFE?!!

[Madina]

Whiners... its so annoying to listen to their whining sometimes, sometimes we dont pay any attention to them, thus not giving them any possibility to go on with their complaints, sometimes we try to save them giving advices which are usually not needed for them as they just want to whine...
We have a lot of such people. What can we do? Its our choice whether to leave him/her just passing by or spend some time with the person and at least to show the way. And its absolutely his/her responsibility to follow our advice or to stay at the same place. I've noted that those who trust us incline to start following another road rather than he one they got used to.

[Ekaterina33]

I noticed that these people do not even notice that they are whiners

[Елена Ясенева]

I noticed that these people do not even notice that they are whiners

When you looked around and see unhappy faces so you start to think that is a normal thing. Everyone looks like me. But if you notice the one who really enjoys the life ... you think it is the crazy one) Everything is about the degree)