“Dad, buy me a dog!”
“Mom, let's get a kitten”
“Look, what a cute rabbit, let's take it home, please!”
Parents do their best to refuse such requests because they understand that they will have to take care of a pet themselves. There are a lot of books written about childrens' communication with animals including books on Psychology. It goes without saying that any contact with nature and animals brings joy to any child. However, there will be new duties: walking, feeding, taking care and looking after a pet which help to cultivate a young naturalist's responsibility, the feeling of duty, discipline, make him feel empathy with a living being.
It is rare when parents think that pet can die. A child will experience tears, tragedy, sadness but forget it in a few days. An extremist will buy another one and this is what happens in the most cases.
However there are special children whose eyesight becomes weak after a pet loss. It is difficult to notice in an early age especially if the eyesight decrease isn't so strong. It usually comes to light in the pre-school age or in the beginning of school when a child starts learning to read and write. Then nobody thinks about the reasons and moreover doesn't connect it with pet loss. In this article we describe what those special children are like, what to do if you have one and they ask you to buy a pet for them, and how to avoid the reactions that can traumatize the visual vector.
Everything around us is beautiful!
A person with has particularly sensitive eyes. It is him who discerns 400 shades of black and in a developed state can catch any of your emotions. He is very emotional no matter what age. He is dewy-eyed, ready to cry at anytime.
In childhood he is inquisitive. He loves to look around, feast his eyes on nature, beautiful pictures, toys and... personify them. Figurative intellect and fertile imagination let him think up imaginary friends and sincerely believe that they are alive.
Such a child personifies his toys and plays and talks to them, gives them names and creates stories about them. He is very emotionally flexible, he can move from tears to laughter in a moment, he brightly expresses his feelings, loves to communicate and make friends.
The biggest pleasure for a child with the visual vector is to create an emotional connection. When he is little he creates it with his toys, characters from books and cartoons. In the process of getting mature when development is adequate, vegetative and animalistic nature go into the background and communication with people is pushed into the foreground.
A pet can become the dearest friend for the visual child who he shares all his joy and sadness with, who he loves with all his heart creating a strong emotional connection.
But, is it good? Not really. This type of connection isn't always formed when there is not enough emotional connection with a mother. The sensitive, vulnerable and emotional child needs (more than others) to share his feelings, emotional experiences and receive responses, participation from his mother and the people closest to him.
It is often easier for a mother to buy a rabbit or a hamster than to find time to communicate with a child. He loves his pet and his mom has time to finish her business. However the price for such a comfort is too high.
The first sad event that happens is a pet's death. It works this way... Even dogs live for 20 years maximum not mentioning cats, rabbits and parrots. When a child's pet who he created emotional connections with and loved, dies, he starts losing eyesight.
The rupture of emotional connection leads to a scary and hostile world for visual child. The natural fear of death gets stronger and stronger. He is scared and suffers and doesn't want to see or feel the bad side of life. Thus a delicate natural mechanism starts. All the damage is taken by the visual vector to protect the psyche. In other words, a pet's death doesn't affect the development of the psychic qualities of a visual child, but may weaken his eyesight.
Teaching empathy to your child is a delicate matter
The answer to the question, “How can I avoid eyesight loss in a visual child?” is simple if one has knowledge of Vector Systems Psychology. A visual child has to be developed.
The saddest thing is, because of the lack of emotional connection with people and focusing his potential on animals, a visual child doesn't develop to the highest level. It means he will experience a lot of fears and panic instead of love.
Make a room with colorful or white wallpaper that a young artist can draw on, give him different paints for his creative expression. Send him to a drama school where he can experience feelings of different characters and make other people feel.
Avoid scary pictures especially where animals eat each other. Don't read scary fairy tales and poems where characters die or are eaten by monsters. It focuses a child on a state of fear and interferes with the vector development.
Fairy tales and cartoons which make a child to experience empathy with characters, stimulate a harmonic development of the visual vector in the direction of compassion, the desire to help and support others.
In order to deeper understand the process, it is necessary to know that there are four levels of development in every vector: inanimate, vegetative, animal and human levels. It is important to go through all these stages as fast as possible.
Now it is necessary to remember that the development of vector qualities occurs before the end of puberty at age of 12-15. After that there is only the realization of qualities by level according to development. There is a little time.
It is necessary to go with a child fast and confidently through the whole cycle of the development: from the compassion of a teddy bear to the care of plants, the poor flowers who can die without water and bend their heads, to the compassion of an elephant (in a zoo) who has never been free and perhaps hasn't even seen other elephants. To the peak - compassion with other people.
It is impossible to overvalue the role of a mother who can create all the conditions of emotional tension. When a mother, because of compassion and empathy (not because of hysterics and the desire to attract attention to herself) has tears in her eyes, a child experiences a new and strong feeling in which he learns to feel himself.
The real actions like visiting together an old lady, making a tea for the sick or calming a crying sister in a corner are very important for a visual child's development.
A strong emotional connection with a mother provides a child with feelings of safety and protection with which he can overcome any kind of emotional experience.
This type of upbringing provides a visual child with maximum development in the direction of love but not fear. A child receives an instrument to work with his feelings, an ability to overcome any fear when he's an adult.
The visual child at age of 4 -5 who learnt to feel and share love with other people won't be scared of monsters from fairy-tales and movies, cartoons but laugh at it.
Compassion, empathy, an ability and desire to help others are the main qualities that have to be developed in a visual child in order to maintain his psychological health and protect his sensitive eyes.
By Diana Gadlevskaya, doctor, anesthesiologist
Original article:
The article is based on the materials of Yuri Burlan's Vector Systems Psychology Training
Translated by: Yevgeniya Chistyakova
